So much attention is often paid to before and during sex, that we sometimes forget about what to do after sex.

Aftercare is an important part of a healthy sexual relationship. It is critical if your sexual relationship has included some BDSM. After the scene, the experience, the orgasms, try to include special aftercare time.


Sex can get, well, messy. Spend some time cleaning up – you and your partner’s bodies, the bed, the toys. Gentle cleansing wipes kept nearby are handy for immediate messes, as are some small, soft hand towels. You know those baby wipes with the warmers? They work wonders in the bedroom, too! Of course, heading to a soothing warm shower together is always an excellent option.


A heavy round of sexual activities can be physically demanding. Keep liquid to drink nearby: water, Gatorade, PowerAde, whatever your hydration of choice is. Healthy sex includes keeping your body hydrated during that workout!

Rest & Recovery

Even a few minutes of laying still after sex is usually required, even if you are in the midst of a quickie. Rest and get breathing back to normal after your romp. Some people love to sleep after sex. Sometimes, a little gentle stretching or yoga is what you need to recover, especially if the sex positions have included a bit of acrobatics! Return to comfort by adjusting body temperature as needed, with a blanket to warm up or by turning on a fan to cool off. Harder sex play will often require some soothing recovery techniques, so be sure to do what is necessary to keep each other healthy.


Everyone’s level of affection will be as different as their sexual preferences, but be sure to add some affection into your aftercare. Snuggles, kisses, a hug, massage, quiet conversation – whatever pleases you.


The mood for aftercare is often much more calming and relaxed than the mood during sex. Candles, scents, lighting, music – all contribute to a relaxing and soothing mood to help come down from the adrenaline released during sex.


Just like the sexual tension and build up, the foreplay, the sex itself and then the climax, aftercare is just one more piece of the sexual experience.